He’s doing ok whatever as his Mrs. appears to be 31!
Have a great day.
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Someone at lunch today was reminding us of the ‘half your age plus 9’ suggestion. Coincidentally for me that would be 42 too !
I guess 42’s the answer to everything.
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Now Mr Every Other MidweekSexy
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Quite so, + glue.
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Has the gentleman’s nap turned from a lifestyle choice to a necessity?
Never been a choice - Napping, like air, is essential
Only you can see me Geoff , only you.
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Happy birthday Matt, May your nuts dangle without pain. 
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Happy birthday Matt.
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Off to funeral for BiL’s dad who passed away suddenly from a heart attack. Not going to be an easy one this, BiL is devastated and has decided to lead the eulogy.
Yeah, that’s a tough one. I went through the same thing when my Dad died suddenly in 2003. I was able to hold it together to deliver the eulogy with my sister, but as soon as it was done the dam broke. Brings a lump to my throat now.
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I’ve always had a weird lack of emotional response to folks dying. Not quite sure why, suspect it’s something to do with the “there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it” level of finality to it all. It does mean I’m quite useful for doing eulogies/readings at funerals, at least.
Suspect it might be a very different story when my Mum goes (hopefully not for many years yet).
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Not knocking you in particular, but funerals are everybody’s opportunity to grieve, to open-up emotionally - you only get one proper go at this, and I deplore the British attitude of choking it all down and desperately suppressing emotions. Cry it the fuck out and start the healing.
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There’s no sense that I’m trying to hold anything back (my father beat most of the emotions out of us as children - because apparently showing emotions is manipulative). They’re just not there for me. Absolutely nothing in the slightest against folks that do weep, if anything it’s the opposite and I’m jealous that they have access to that bit of catharsis.
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I suppose I made the point clumsily - it’s the claim that it’s useful that I demur - it’s a damn shame that you were robbed of accessible emotions in that way, that’s just fucking awful.
I replied because every funeral I go to (and it’s way too fucking many in the last few years), is full of needlessly embarrassed people apologising for the slightest display of emotion - and it’s all thanks to twats like your dad who felt they could knock it out of others. Crippling emotional repression is nothing to be proud of, and it’s a disgrace that horrible cunts are allowed to assert otherwise.
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Just got back after a pretty draining day. The service was hijacked somewhat by the Sally Army who BiL’s dad was a lifelong member, but the stories and tributes were great to hear and find out new things about him.
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I find when I go to funerals that I often come away thinking “S/he must have been great. I wish I knew that much about them when they were alive”. Mind you, I went to one recently where a daughter gave the eulogy and expressed the view that if only Dad hadn’t had so many affairs his marriage to her mother might have been more successful.
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I’ve always felt the same thing, thankfully all those emotions have had time to heal and my old fella is down next weekend and I can’t wait. The best thing was him leaving the army . Some issues and views remain but it is an easier circus to navigate
