My M-i-L bless her, had this in her final stages of dementia.; absolutely heart wrenching.
Our thoughts are with you all.
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I know people say this all the time, but seriously my thoughts are with you and Ann.
I went through similar situations with both my parents and it is an incredibly difficult time.
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Less difficult for me Kev because up until he came to stay with us just before Christmas, I hardy knew him - he was such a loner. Ann however has got quite close to him since her Dad (his brother) passed, and particularly after we moved up here two years ago. His bungalow is about 10 miles from us and Ann sees him regularly.
If you folks don’t mind, I’ll continue to keep this thread updated because she knows most of you from bakes and your thoughts and wishes have been a comfort for her.
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Sorry to read this Jim. I’ve been avoiding reading it as I knew it would be heartbreaking.
Best wishes to Ann and yourself.
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Time runs its course for all of us, of course, and when faced with heartbreak all you can do is be loving and supportive and focus on a life lived well. It’s great that he has Ann looking-out for him now, and great that she has you. It sounds like Ann’s uncle lived his life on his own terms, and in so-doing has lived to a ripe old age with his most precious commodity - his mind - intact. Something to celebrate I’d say.
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Please do Jim. We’re thinking of you both here.
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Despite all the bluster, this place can be very, very supportive as I’m well aware. I’m sorry to read of Ann’s distress and her uncle’s suffering. I hope that N&N hospital are in a position to provide him with as much comfort and relief as possible if his time is nearing.
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Please do Jim. As you know the bluster and nonsense here is just people letting of steam. When the chips are down even the most ridiculous AA can be almost human. It seems very right that you moved up closer and Ann had some time with her uncle. It is a tough place indeed to feel so powerless to: help, fix or make it better. I’m sure he knows he is loved, this it seems is what it’s all about. When Money time or anything else can’t help, Love is what we have left, if we are very fortunate.
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Sorry to be late to the discussion. I cannot add anything but you are in my thoughts. I send my best wishes to all of you.
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Sorry to read all these posts Jim ,Again you are getting wonderful support from the AA folks ,quite rightly so as both Ann and yourself are a pair life’s good guys …Thinking of you Micky
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Despite having only met a couple of you lot in person (this will make me sound like a total saddo 
) but I think of you lot as my close mates. The fact we can share life’s ups and downs, especially these last few years, has been one of the main reasons I’ve kept my sanity.
I know it’s hard just now but looking back to when my Dad passed away in 2020 - being able to spend his last weeks together and share some great laughs with him, strange as it may seem, is a lovely memory now.
I really hope Anne can look back in the years to come in the same way.
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After two weeks in the Norfolk & Norwich hospital Uncle’s condition has stabilised sufficiently for him to be moved into a nursing home.
During that two weeks, we’ve received mixed massages from the hospital - from the 3am call saying we should prepare ourselves for the worst, to he’s a fighter and he’s holding on; but common to every message is that he is very poorly and unlikely to recover.
Yesterday he was moved to a nursing home/hospice in Dereham which is about 4 miles from us. The good news is that we’ll be able to visit him anytime, providing we can provide a negative CV19 test. (N&N was 18 miles, but there was no visiting anyway) 
The NHS will pay the cost of the nursing home for 6 weeks, then they will review the situation.
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I do like a story with a happy ending 
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What a time for you and Anne, especially. So glad her Uncle is, at last, receiving the care he needs. Wishing you both all the best, take care Jim.
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Ann’s Uncle passed early this morning. The nurse who called us said that he wasn’t in any pain or distress, he simply passed away while sleeping. 
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Sorry to hear that Jim, glad at least that the ending was as peaceful as possible.
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Condolences Jim and family.
I hope his peaceful slipping away is some small comfort.
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sorry to hear that @Jim, our condolences to Ann and yourself
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Condolences to you all. As good a way to go as any.
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My condolences to Ann, Yourself and the family , some comfort in his manner of passing.
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