Background; In the late 70s/early 80s, I was an sperm donor. I have never wanted children of my own but have never had an issue with others having kids. But I didn’t donate for altruism, I was paid A$20 a toss. I was a semi-professional wanker. This was done to supplement my income/allowance while studying.
This was done anonymously*, at a registered sperm bank.
Today, my sister contacted me via Messenger. Out of the blue, she asked if I was a sperm donor.
It turns out that a female contacted her via Ancestry.com.au. Her parents used donor sperm in the early 80s. Through a DNA detective she found a connection. Apparently, it was my sperm. It was used for her and her two siblings.
She now wants to contact me.
Initially, I didn’t care either way. I always joked that I had loads of kids scattered far and wide.
I am partly furious that my private records have been accessed. *The law was changed a few years ago which allowed people to know who the donor was.
Thinking about it further, do I have the right to deny her that knowledge ?
I am flip-flopping between ignoring it and making contact. If I do make contact, what next ?
Talk about the ever-shrinking-Adelaide-gene-pool