Yep, my 87 year old mum has Alzheimer’s and has no idea whether she is hungry or not. Fortunately she is now in a very sheltered housing complex where we know she has had breakfast and a lunchtime meal. Tough times.
We chose a nice place for her, based on the fact that it doesn’t stink of piss…
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Yep, been there, unfortunately.
I have no answers, but you have my greatest sympathies.
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Tough Phil, my Mum has Alzheimer’s and is gradually slipping away in terms of the person I knew. Hard, very hard for my Dad who is the main carer, but they still get out a lot as these days dementia is the norm for 80-something’s.
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Unfortunately, you get to the point where you have to make decisions for them. No-one wants to leave a home where they may have lived for many years, we concluded that it just wasn’t safe for her to continue to do so.
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This. At the time it seemed a really hard thing to do. Sadly, none of it gets any easier. Our experience was that any delay due to us dithering impacted on Mum’s quality of life…
You can but do your best.
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So many of us have experienced this Phil. The time comes when we have to start taking charge. That doesn’t come easily and my thoughts are with you.
Graeme
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I was fortunate to be able to move in to my Mum’s place and become her carer when she started to struggle to manage on her own due to dementia. That was three years ago. It’s been difficult but also rewarding.
Everybody experiences the illness differently and it can be tricky to find the right path. I’ve been lucky and had great support and advice from the social workers and the carer’s centre. It’s all about maintaining their quality of life by whatever means for as long as possible. You’ll work it out I’m sure. Good luck Phil.
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Been at a wedding of some very good friends today. Very informal do, lots of amazing food, dancing, some silly games and excellent company.
Makes me think me and the lady ought to get hitched after 15 years of engagement…
You will regret that dark a ceiling
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It’ll dry lighter.
I hope
What, a lighter shade of shit-brown?
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Admiring the drop from my youngest daughter’s new bedroom, floor to ceiling, sash window and trying to ignore the voice in my head telling me that a very graphic verbal description of what falling from heights does to the human body is not a sufficient life preserver.
It would never have been a hit with that title, thank goodness they changed it
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A lighter shade of pail.
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If terrifying warnings don’t work then there are various hardware ways of limiting how far the window can be opened. Depending on how big she is you can estimate how small a gap she could squeeze through and screw a block into the sash guide to stop it being lifted that far. If the sash really is floor-to-ceiling then you could consider a low-level polycarbonate screen to stop her crashing through the bottom of the window on a pedal toy or lager binge. Is she young enough that either of these is likely ?
VB
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I get vertigo just looking at that.
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Cheers, just looked online and there are some screw in opening limiting locks available. She is a sensible kid but she is a kid and the window is only 9 inches above the floor so could encourage leaning out as she did this morning to shout and wave as she spotted me coming back from buying a paper.
It was a reaction to my wife wanting a bungalow, buy a house with seven flights of stairs.
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